Seeing that made me think much more “oh, this guy got divorce raped and he’s pretty pissed off” rather than “oh that poor woman, we have to protect her”.

If we’re going to leave justice out of the equation entirely — and family courts are literally set up to do exactly that, being courts of equity operating under a bunch of insane premises — then maybe we should think practically. The state set up a huge apparatus for pissing off the more dangerous sex. If the court decisions are so fair, then maybe they should appoint a bailiff to live at her house full time.

Generally people accept decisions that go against them if they have some trust in the fairness of the process. That they don’t either says that the person is a villain of the worst type or that they’ve lost trust in the fairness of the process.